My Work
How I Work
I take a relational and integrative approach, meaning I tailor our sessions to your unique experiences, drawing from different therapy models like existential, psychosynthesis, and gestalt. I believe in creating a flexible space where we can explore your concerns together, blending insights from these modalities to suit your needs. I use both talking therapy and a mixture of creative ways of working to explore more deeply your experience, finding a level that feels most comfortable and helpful for you. I believe the relationship we build within the sessions becomes the model and practice for how you can be in relationships outside of the sessions. I therefore encourage you to be your most authentic self with me, and I shall do the same. So please, bring your anger, sadness and fears. My aim is to build a strong, trusting relationship that fosters growth and healing.
What Guides My Practice
Over the course of my therapeutic work, I found I have developed a particular expertise for three niche and profound themes - endings, authenticity and selffulness. While they are not my only focus in therapy, I feel like these concepts come up in many clients' work, sometimes with great resistance. I find that is when they offer the richest ground for self-awareness, personal development and self-love. Here is what I mean by these themes:
Endings
Sadly, trying to go through life without experiencing an ending is like trying to pass through fire without getting burned. Endings are inevitable in our lives, however this is a topic that is often quickly avoided because it feels overwhelming, emotionally intense, too burdensome for others to hear, or simply too confusing to begin untangling, as so much can be happening all at once. When I talk about endings, I include:
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Death or anticipated loss
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Retirement
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Moving house or job
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Ending old patterns or behaviours
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Loss due to financial challenges
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Break ups
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Redundancy
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Letting go of past identities
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Loss of physical abilities
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Changes in values or beliefs
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Divorce
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Life changes and transitions
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Indecisiveness
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Closure of unresolved conflict
and many more
When we experience an ending, it can often trigger unresolved emotions from past experiences too, resurfacing feelings we may not have fully processed. If left unaddressed, these layers of grief can deepen their impact over time. I help clients explore the emotional experience of these endings and their potential for personal transformation. By acknowledging the significance of endings, we create space to process grief, find closure, and embrace opportunities for renewal that these transitions bring. Endings are not just moments of loss; they are also times of reflection, learning, and growth.
Authenticity
"The greatest source of our suffering are the lies we tell ourselves". Bessel Van Der Kolk
How often do people feel they have to be someone else in order to fit in, deny a certain part of themselves, or maybe they lack self-acceptance and self-love for a part of who they are. Authenticity is about living in alignment with your true self - understanding and embracing who you are beneath societal expectations, roles, and external pressures. Many people struggle with being authentic because they fear judgment, rejection, or uncertainty. In my practice, I help you explore your inner truth and guide you toward living more authentically.
I believe authenticity is essential for emotional well-being because it fosters a sense of congruence between your inner experience and your outer life. When you're able to express yourself without fear or pretension, you gain deeper self-acceptance and form more genuine, fulfilling relationships. Therapy offers a space to safely explore and nurture this authenticity.
Selffulness
If the word didn't already exist, I would have invented it myself in a session with a client one day. Nevertheless, this is something I fully promote in everyone's life. Selffulness, a concept that blends self-awareness with compassion for oneself, is about finding balance between self-care and the care of others. Unlike selfishness, selffulness promotes a healthy sense of self-worth and emotional boundaries, without impeding on another's boundaries. It encourages you to put yourself first in a way that isn't wrapped with shame or egotistical accusations from the outside world. It encourages you to give to yourself as much as you give to others, creating sustainable relationships and well-being.
In our work together, I help you cultivate selffulness by prioritising your needs without guilt or fear of losing connection with others. We learn to establish what is selfless or selfish versus what your needs are in relationships. Developing this quality allows you to maintain personal boundaries, engage in nourishing relationships, and avoid the exhaustion that can come from overextending yourself.
How These Concepts Come Together
Endings, authenticity, and selffulness are deeply intertwined in the process of self-discovery, growth and healing. Facing endings opens the door to becoming more authentic, as you reflect on how you want to live and what you want to leave behind, finding what aligns with your true self. As you move toward living more authentically, selffulness becomes critical in sustaining this balance - ensuring that you honour your needs while remaining connected to others in a healthy, reciprocal way.
Together, these themes provide a roadmap for navigating life’s transitions with greater clarity, self-compassion, and purpose. In therapy, we can explore how each of these guiding principles could support you in making meaningful, lasting change.
What I Have Worked With
Though this list isn't exhaustive, I have worked with clients navigating a wide range of emotional, relational and personal challenges. I am always willing to work new clients and their presenting concerns, and would be more than happy to work with your needs too, so please feel free to get in touch and we can understand what works best for you.
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Endings
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Anxiety
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Trauma and PTSD
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Self-esteem and Identity Issues
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Anger Management
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Fears
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Selffulness
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Stress
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Sexuality and Gender Concerns
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Burnout
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Existential Issues
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Finding Purpose and Meaning
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Authenticity
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Depression
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Relationship Difficulties
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Addiction
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Childhood Concerns
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Dissociation
Get in Touch
If you have any questions or you would like to organise a first session, please feel free to fill in the form and I shall respond as soon as I am able to.
